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What are your views on interracial relationships? My girl of over a year is black and I'm white and we seem to get mad critism over it. Every black dude thinks they can take her away from me, and every white dude looks at me like I'm a sell out. Especially since she acts ghetto, everybody thinks she couldn't find a black dude so she settled for me. It aint even like that, I grew up in an urban, mostly minority area myself. And we met even before she came to Boston. What's the deal? I live in Boston, which is real segregated, and I'm tired of the racist tendencies of most people here, both black and white, the high rent, low wages, and all the politics in this shitty ass city. I guess I'm going into another subject, but anyways, post what yall thoughts are. PeAcE.



<font size=-1>[ This Message was edited by: Daceptakon on 2001-06-07 11:54 ]</font>

yeah, even though there's so much prejudice that goes on, trying to fit in with the 'social norms,' and people who dont fit in are frowned upon, it is only love that can bind and if the person you love is of another race/colour, so be it. In the society we live in, which is far from perfect, those people in interracial relationships are paving the way for a new less prejudiced era in time. I think it is a positive thing, and everybody else who says otherwise are just plain ignorant, and are just too willing to except the views past on to them from their elders ('son wen you grow up your gunna marry a beautiful women' ..oh daphney look at mrs. so&so on tv - she is so beautiful.. the son see that she is white, blue eyes etc. and therefore equates beauty with those characteristics, and then would never even think of marrying someone of another colour). Its a socialisation process - people who fight it.. RESPECT!
peace!
fikshen

<font size=-1>[ This Message was edited by: fikshen on 2001-06-07 10:47 ]</font>

I beleive follow your heart, not your eyes. Analyze how YOU feel. The LAST thing you need to be concerned with is other people's lame opinions.

I couldn't have said it better myself. :smile:
I aient white so its a little easier for me and my man to get pass these racial barriers(he's black and i am mixed asian) and also where we live its more "socially accepted" than other parts of the US. Of course there are occaisional glances and whispers we get but we aient even gonna fuck with there ignornance.

In all honesty son, after reading this message I got one question: Who's got the pussy in this relationship?
You come off acting like you didn't know that an interracial relationship was gonna draw you some heat..Mo'fucka, you ain't never watched The Jeffersons?!?
Personally, I date whomever the fuck I choose; let some little punk bitch give me a dirty look or try to kick game to my woman and watch what kinda shit that catches his ass. You sound like you're looking for validation for your relationship; obviously, you can't handle the social problems if your posting up here and looking to draw support for what you do. Fuck that son. If you love the girl, then be with her and quit worrying about what people say and how they look at you; they gonna do that shit no matter who you with. To quote Denis Leary, "Life's hard. Get a fuckin' helmet".

Dogg, first off, I was just layin it out like it is. You don't know the half of the shit I go through. I'm just pointin out the bullshit that goes on in this world and how effed up Boston is compared to NYC or a lot of other places. Don't come at me with that "who's got the pussy" bullshit, I just wanted to see what yall thought and where your mindstate was. I don't need validation from nobody. Anyways, It was an issue I thought was interesting to chat about but I guess not. OUT.

xViolentxOnex...

That was Cold... How about showing some respect next time...

Interesting topic.

I've tried to write a response 3 times and ended up erasing it because it wasnt sounding right.

Women of all sorts intrigue me. Most of the women I've dated have been black, however. I've noticed that disparity lately and have had mixed feelings about what to "do" about it. Bear with me if this sounds corny. Now, to target women of other ethnicities just to break the mold seems contrived and almost like reverse discrimination...but I look at this period before I settle down as the time to live life and explore and push boundaries. I almost certainly have notions in my head about how a relationship with a white or Asian femme would be. But I'm trying not to target women of other ethnicities simply to satisfy my curiosity. It almost seems like using them, if there is not a genuine interest in the person herself, and I'm just seeing the physical or approaching them with stereotypes echoing in my head. I like to think I'm a cat who is unaffected by these societal hangups, but I think we all are in subtle ways. Even things like approaching an Indian or Asian or white girl seems awkward, though I am tempted. Eventually I'll scope out that beauty that will force me past my inhibitions......I'll probably see that we'd go through the same things and share the same sort of experiences I have been dating black women.



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<font size=-1>[ This Message was edited by: Leffield on 2001-06-07 12:35 ]</font>

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<font size=-1>[ This Message was edited by: kisapele on 2001-06-07 13:15 ]</font>

I date men of all different cultures and races, I like to learn. I am a jewish/native american mix, by the classifications on this board I am white, but I tend to not date white men. I am an intelligent, strong, opinionated female and a lot of your typical white families in america don't have that element, therefore they have no idea how to handle/stimulate/communicate with me. The white men that I do date typically come from single mothers... I don't know, Im not trying to generalize, it is simply my experience.

Anyway, with that said, I am more attracted to men who understand women of my calibur :wink:...and I tend to date mostly African/Trini/Jamaican men.

<font size=-1>[ This Message was edited by: kisapele on 2001-06-07 13:14 ]</font>

I apologize for comin' across so harsh earlier; obviously you were hurt by my words...It's just that I caught a whole shitload of flack from my family when I was with this really dark-skinned Brazilian and when shit came to decidin', I went with her, no questions asked...I think it's like that wherever you go and you're talkin' about interracial relationships...I know for a while it was taboo for Irish to date Italians with some of my friends and my girlfriend was Italian, so you can see that I've always done what I wanted...you should feel obliged to yourself to be the same...be with whomever you want and say fuck you to people that get in your way...life is a bitch; you can either handle your business or let it handle you, you feel me?

hey as long as the code of love and friendship are following, anything should be ok, and that goes for gay and lesbian relationships too....

however, i have to elaborate...currently i like an asian girl, yet, the thought has crossed my that --becuase of social norms, is the code of relationship broken becuase i date out of my race? sometimes i think it is, becuase i know and have REALLY good relationships with girls from all walks of life, yet when i feel like a relationship would nice to have with them, i feel that i would not suitable for them simply becuase i am what i am....well....like i said above, everyone should be comfortable with floating their own boat....

at one point in my life, i would have never dated a girl that was of other race...i was just raised like that, but i raised above all that and now im dating this chick who's mixed. i've known her for the longest time, but we just now started seeing each other on more serious terms, and iwouldnt trade her for anything...

and it's not cause she's half black or im jewish, or jesus was mexican... i dont see colors like that, and im even trying to make it to the point to where when im tellin a story, i dont refer to blacks or whites, or any other race as another race, we're all the same.

so instead of bein like, "yo...that black kid, or mexican kid is pretty cool." or something i'd just say that kid.

just a goal of mine.


peace

yo i know what your talking about i'm from boston too (now stayin in brockton) and i'm still in highschool and i just started dating a white girl. But all the african chicks i hang out with in my school(like my sisters)are hatin on me big time...i don't know what i should do

From my perspective, all blood runs read, all hearts beat to the rythmic paenatmeter and every single soul is as unique as it could possibly be. You may only find one person who you can truly relate with in your entire life so you had better run with it, and if you can't get past skin color, your the one who is losing out.

~pax~

personally i don't see anything wrong with it but it is something that i wouldn't do. if i see my boy with a white chick i won't tell him he shouldn't be with her, i might clown him alittle bit but thats just in fun, and i will fully support his decision. its just something that i don't think i would do.

another thing that i have noticed with a lot of black males is that they will date out of there race but they won't date white women, and i think thats stupid. if u are going to open yourself up to other races to don't discriminate.

Yo mesa: what were sayin again about, if you moved to DC, that I should help you find a "BLACK GIRL?" You were kidding? Oh... okay...Got it...



COLORBLIND starts in the HEART and THEN penetrates the eyes

At the same time,

One thing I've discussed with my boys is the responsibility we have to building the black community. I think one of the reasons I gravitate to black women is the interest in making a strong union...that will lead to black children growing up with a strong sense of self (and be naturally inclined to show their peers the light). It goes along the same lines as once you start pulling in some money, to not necessarily make a blitzkrieg run for the suburbs...but rather building on and building up where your people are. Women of other ethnicities may be fully empathetic of my plight and feel like they are a part of the movement to strengthening the community, but there are certain things that you have to BE a part of to be fully vested in it.

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<font size=-1>[ This Message was edited by: Leffield on 2001-06-08 09:44 ]</font>

while I respect your stance Leffield and I understand the need to not water down strong cultures, I feel that by separating your circle of women to only one race limits you to the true beauty of women...ultimately limiting yourself. Many cultures are watered down, it makes us more beautiful, I have so MANY different cultures in me I call myself "other" or heinz 57. I don't know, I find the men that I have truly loved (only 2) were very similar to me spiritually...I think that is more important than culturally.

peace, love & light